From my readings… On human speech and critic

To see with one’s own eyes, to feel and judge without succumbing to the suggestive power of the fashion of the day, to be able to express what one has seen and felt in a trim sentence or even in a cunningly wrought word – is that not glorious? Is it not a proper subject for congratulation? – Einstein congratulations to a critic

From the book “Ideas & Opinions – Albert Einstein”

In this paragraph written by Einstein, he discusses the real freedom of speech, the true inner thoughts and critics of one person without having to say what is fashionable of one to say. Not what you wish to hear, or what most people would say, but what after reading one thoughts, one feels and speaks his true inner deep words. Today, and it upsets me to see that most of our leaders, most of the world, today, only speak of what is expected to say, what most would say, what is heard, nothing new. But are we not craving new? Honest truth new? The positive imperfection of what one person can say? Just be human, say something that doesn’t make sense maybe, or say something that only you can understand if you had to, find a new niche? Maybe a new group of people who have looked for someone like you? The rests of the world are followers anyway.

Old houses and streets of Haifa

When trying over and over again and failing, when feeling down and unfit in this world. Remember it is time to read this Blog Post.

Early this morning, I woke up to one great read on the Wake Up World online community. The article speaks about creativity and I felt it is an article both worth sharing and remembering for I agree with it and find it very motivational.

Here are my footnotes and favorite parts that I wish to carry along with me from the full article by Michael Michalko

“You are creative. Every one of us is born a creative, spontaneous thinker. This is why people who believe they are creative become creative. All creative geniuses work passionately hard and produce incredible numbers of ideas, most of which are bad. In fact, more bad poems were written by the major poets than by minor poets. Shakespeare wrote 154 sonnets. Some were masterpieces, while others were no better than his contemporaries could have written, and some were simply bad. When you go through the motions of trying to come up with new ideas, you are energizing your brain by increasing the number of contacts between neurons. The more times you try to get ideas, the more active your brain becomes and the more creative you become. You can synthesize experience; literally create it in your own imagination. The human brain cannot tell the difference between an “actual” experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail. This discovery is what enabled Albert Einstein to create his thought experiments with imaginary scenarios that led to his revolutionary ideas about space and time. One day, for example, he imagined falling in love. Then he imagined meeting the woman he fell in love with two weeks after he fell in love. This led to his theory of acausality. The only certainty in life is uncertainty. When trying to get ideas,  do not censor or evaluate them as they occur. Nothing kills creativity faster than self-censorship of ideas while generating them. Think of all your ideas as possibilities and generate as many as you can before you decide which ones to select. The world is not black or white. It is grey. Never stop with your first good idea. Always strive to find a better one and continue until you have one that is still better. Trust your instincts. One professor said Einstein was “the laziest dog” the university ever had. Beethoven’s parents were told he was too stupid to be a music composer. Walt Disney was fired from his first job on a newspaper because “he lacked imagination.” Whenever you try to do something and do not succeed, you do not fail. You have learned something that does not work. Interpret your own experiences. All experiences are neutral. They have no meaning. You give them meaning by the way you choose to interpret them. If you are a priest, you see evidence of God everywhere. If you are an atheist, you see the absence of God everywhere. Always approach a problem on its own terms. Do not trust your first perspective of a problem as it will be too biased toward your usual way of thinking. Always look at your problem from multiple perspectives. Always remember that genius is finding a perspective no one else has taken. Look for different ways to look at the problem. Take another role, for example, how would someone else see it, how would Jay Leno, Pablo Picasso, George Patton see it? Take a walk and look for things that metaphorically represent the problem and force connections between those things and the problem. Ask your friends and strangers how they see the problem. Ask a child. How would a ten year old solve it? Ask a grandparent. Imagine you are the problem. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Creative geniuses are inclusive thinkers which mean they look for ways to include everything, including things that are dissimilar and totally unrelated. Albert Einstein once famously remarked “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.” To create, a person must have knowledge but forget the knowledge, must see unexpected connections in things but not have a mental disorder, must work hard but spend time doing nothing as information incubates, must create many ideas yet most of them are useless, must look at the same thing as everyone else, yet see something different, must desire success but embrace failure, must be persistent but not stubborn, and must listen to experts but know how to disregard them.” Full article here by Michael Michalko on Wake Up World.

Magic world

It also is very interesting how it explains that if you go to experts for advice they most probably will be negative. Why? because they think they are the best at things, and they believe that the best is already out there. New ideas, are very new, to experts and to non experts, and it is very hard for anyone to visualize something that is completely new on earth as much as you; “the creative behind it can visualize it”. Therefore, always keep in mind that taking advice from experts is always a good thing, but trusting their inputs, no matter what, should not be stronger or more powerful than your instincts.

When you do fail, or when a mistake occurs, giving up is a choice, but wanting to find a solution is persistence to go over the mistake looking for a solution. Finding the solutions is your first step to a complete success. Michael Michalko sets a beautiful example in his article: “Once Thomas Edison was approached by an assistant while working on the filament for the light bulb. The assistant asked Edison why he didn’t give up. “After all,” he said, “you have failed 5000 times.” Edison looked at him and told him that he didn’t understand what the assistant meant by failure, because, Edison said, “I have discovered 5000 things that don’t work.” You construct your own reality by how you choose to interpret your experiences.”

So don’t give up, failing is only the beginning, it truly is. You have to measure what you believe in and how much you believe in it. There is a difference between trying to prove something and trying to create something. Trying to prove something is shallow and uncreative, trying to create something, stems from your inner creator. Trust your inner creator, trust that we are all connected to the Divine creator. Trust that through our believe we will be able to flourish our goals, but don’t expect to get there the first, the second or the third time, and if you did, don’t just think there is nothing better coming after or only better should come after. We create 100 things and between the 100 only 1 might be the one right thing.

What is Destiny? And how different is it from your Fate?

“Destiny doesn’t mean that your life has been strictly predetermined. Therefore, to leave everything to fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance. The music of the universe is all-pervading and it is composed on forty different levels. Your destiny is the level where you will play your tune. You might not change your instrument but how well to play is entirely in your hands.” Another great one by The Sufi mystic & Islamic scholar Jalal ad-Din Rumi – Rule#29 from the book 40 Rules of love by Elif Shafak – Read more below.

Neukolln flea market in Berlin Maybachufer

Two years ago, the following question occurred to me:

What is the difference between Destiny and Fate?

Why does everyone keep saying, this is your destiny, or this is just fate? what is the difference anyway? And if things are meant to be then what are we fighting for?

I kept searching for answers, asking people I love, people I felt are wise, people who I was interested to hear their input. I started to evaluate life, incidents, accidents, and concluding. After few month of living the question, answers starting coming to me. How? Serendipity filled my life. Coincidence, luck or call it Destiny or Fate started to take place. Things that were a little bit fortunate or unfortunate but at that specific time it all seemed to have a language of its own. Bumping into loved ones, bumping into long time acquaintance, getting into the most unimaginable accidents, and even meeting new people who end up changing my life.

Yes, all of the above happened to me within literally less than a month, I felt I can predict reasons, but then with time, it showed me different reasons, and so I realized that reasons either change according to time or they are simply always unpredictable even when they are predictable.

So i came down to the following conclusion: Fate; is what you have no control over; your parents, your siblings, your class mates, your kids, acquaintances, accidents, gifts, location etc… Destiny; is how you deal with them, where you take your relationship to, how you establish or sustain, how you act; positive or negative, how you feel; lucky or unlucky.

And Like Rumi puts it in the above quote: Fate is your instrument, it can not be changed for it is given to you, but how you play this instrument is your destiny, your choice, to use it or not to use it, to become a musician or to just frame it for display. To make beautiful memorable piece, or to make noisy and harsh piece. Your fate is what you have no choice over, your destiny is how you decide to act upon it.

How is Islam a religion of Love?

“The true Sufi is such that even when he is unjustly accused, attacked, and condemned from all sides, he patiently endures, uttering not a single bad word about any of his critics. A sufi never apportions blame. How can there be opponents or rivals or even “others” when there is no “Self” in the first place? How can there be anyone to blame when there is only one?”

The Sufi mystic & Islamic scholar Jalal ad-Din Rumi – Rule#30 from the book 40 Rules of love by Elif Shafak

And what is Sufism? It is a concept in Islam, defined by scholars as the inner, mystical, dimension of Islam. It is purely based on the tenets from Islam, and the teachings of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). The religion based on Peace and Love.

And what about terrorism? Terror exists, since Adam & Eve gave birth to their first two sons; “for those of you who know the story” and for those of you who don’t; Terror existed as soon as human beings became concerned about the “Self”. Religions, were sent to help us live in harmony, together, but humans who grew to become selfish, greedy and fall in trouble, tend to use anything to twist things and just put the blame on something. And what better than to blame religion?

Islam calls for love, for peace, for unity, for harmony, to leave judgments only to God, for us to be ethical, to have respect for one another, to work on building a pure heart… so how can it contradict itself and call for terror? Terrorism has been misused, misinterpreted, and labeled to Islam. But terrorism has no religion. And those who do it in the name of religion, are only ignorant’s trying to cover themselves up.

We were born in love, we were born with love, we were born for love. We shall die in love, we shall die spreading love, and we shall win with love. Don’t let the media mislead you, read, learn and lead yourself.

There are 11 fountains in Solothurn

If you keep breaking other people’s hearts, whatever religious duty you perform is no good.

Nothing should stand between yourself and God. Not Imams, Priests, Rabis, or any other custodians of moral or religious leadership. Not spiritual masters, not even your faith. Believe in your values, and your rules, but never lord them over others. If you keep breaking other people’s hearts, whatever religious duty you perform is no good. Stay away from all sorts of idolatry, for they will blur your vision. Let God and only God be your guide. Learn the truth, my friend, but be careful not to make a fetish out of your truths.

The Sufi mystic & Islamic scholar Jalal ad-Din Rumi – Rule#32 from the book 40 Rules of love by Elif Shafak

Beautiful flowers

What is Love ?

It is Valentines day, and some of us think it is overrated and some of us look forward to it. Some of us believe it is a reason to remember love, and some of us think we need to celebrate love everyday. Some of us think Valentines is for people to express their love for one another, and some of us think Valentines is cliché.

Montreal Love sign

I personally love Valentines. I think it is a reason to be creative with love. Dedicate this day to people you wish to express your love to or maybe you wish to explain what love means to you. Love is a feeling we were all born to spread, we were all born to experience and we were all born to give. Without love, we can not be complete.

This year, I wish to dedicate my Valentines to the refugee kids I met in the Jarash Camp. They have absolutely filled my heart with just a little extra feeling of love, a different type of love. The love to give to strangers, the love to accept from strangers, the love to express love, the love that has no elements what so ever. Children in general are like that, children who want to play are specifically like that. Give any child your attention, your will to play with them, and look at the loving energy they begin to send to you. It is like magic. And once you start playing with them, communicating with them, and understanding them, then, they will love you forever. It is beautiful magic.

So I asked those beautiful kids the following: “Draw one thing that makes you happy, anything that puts a smile on your face, anything you feel is very special and gets you excited.” They first started throwing words at me like: Theme Parks, Birthdays, Brides, Dolls, Dresses… As I rolled out white paper and gave them colors to start drawing.

And to me, this is the definition of love. Love is everywhere, in all of us, for all of us, at every corner, moving with the wind. Love is a warm feeling, it is a smile that does not depart your face, it is eyes sparkling, the reflection of what is pure. Love is a speechless language, it is a feeling, and it is not visible unless you wish to express it. And how can you express it? There are infinite ways to express it, there are no limits to it, and no boundaries, it is just the act of giving and being happy as you give. Those kids are love, they speak words of love, they think only with love, and all they seek for, is love.

Portraits of Children from the Gaza Jarash Refugee Camp

Gaza Refugee Camp

Hell is here and now. So is Heaven. Quit worrying about hell and dreaming about heaven, as they are both present inside this very moment. Every time we fall in love, we ascend to heaven. Every time we hate, envy, or fight someone, we tumble straight into the fires of hell. Rule #25 of the Sufi Mystic Rumi – from the book The Forty Rules of Love by Elief Shafak

When we love, we always strive to become better than we are, when we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too. From the book The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you, believe in him, though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden. For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he ascends to your height an caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth. Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself, He threshes you to make you naked. He sifts you to free you from your husks. He grinds you to whiteness, he kneads you until you are pliant; and then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of life’s heart. But if in fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor, into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Love gives naught but itself an takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; for love is sufficient unto love. When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.” And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself. But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires.To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To know the pain of too must tenderness. To love wounded by your own understanding of love; and to bleed willingly and joyfully. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving; to rest at the noon hour and meditate lover’s ecstasy; to return home at eventide with gratitude; and then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips. From the book The Prophet by Khalil Gibran.Frankfurt

So what is love?